The following are 6 sample "Lessons from the Heart" excerpted from "The T.D. Jakes Relationship Bible: Life Lessons on Relationships from the Inspired Word of God."
1. Overcoming Our Differences in Relationships.
The
art of relationships requires that a man who is very different from his
woman finds common ground with her and vice versa. We are meant to
balance each other by attracting people whose strengths may be our
weaknesses. Together as a result of our differences and unique
distinctions, we complement each other. Understanding only comes when
you stand under a real desire to know, love, and comprehend the other
person, embracing the uniqueness of who they are.
2. Healthy Relationships Require Emotional and Spiritual Freedom.
You
often won't know what you have, let alone need, in your life until you
clear the mental and emotional room to experience the here and now. We
don't have to stay buried under the past or cycles of mistakes, even
though it may seem insurmountable. You can move on with your life. You
have to keep your mental and emotional house clean and in order.
Praying, journaling, mediation, and exercise are common ways for you to
be sure your emotional issues of the past aren't seeping into your
current relationships.
3. It Takes Courage to Really Love Someone.
Deciding
to love gets harder as you get older. It's more and more difficult to
fall in love because your "faller" gets broken. We've all had
relationships that didn't work out for one reason or another. The loss
of a relationship can be a traumatic experience and can affect us in our
lives for months and sometimes for years. You need to understand what
role you played in the relationship's demise, and work to come to peace
with your partner's behavior as well as your own. No matter what has
happened to you, the only hope of a healthy future relationship is to
let go of the past.
4. Healthy Compromise in Relationships.
Negotiating
win-win possibilities in relationships often means seeing things
through the eyes of the others involved in the situation or problem. In
most cases of healthy compromise, both parties feel they are "right."
Healthy compromise is the hallmark of healthy relationships. The Lord's
peace often results when each side comes close to His viewpoint, His
perfect plan for both parties. We cannot remain so entrenched in our
view that we cannot change or adapt, and we must know when not to
compromise too far.
5. Safeguarding Your Relationships.
In
order to maximize your life and relationships, you have to minimize
your load. You must focus on what's important when it comes to your
relationships. Lightening your load means knowing when to release
things. Most of don't realize that the key to release ourselves is
within our own hands. You can move ahead and conserve your strength for
things that count, things you can change, things you can control. Have
the wisdom to see the importance of giving you all to your relationships
today!
6. Evaluate Who You Are.
When you see
yourself as valuable enough to deserve love and attention from the other
person, you form a boundary that you will not compromise. A little
self-esteem goes a long way in garnering the courage to ask and answer
questions that reveal who you really are and what you really want. Once
you look realistically at who you really are and what you desire in a
healthy relationship, you are ready to enter into the research that will
lead to sound decisions.
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