We had our first argument last night, and he said a lot of cruel things that really hurt me. I know he is sorry and didn't mean the things he said, because he sent me flowers today.
I got flowers today. It wasn't our anniversary or any other special day.
Last night he threw me into a wall and started to choke me. It seemed like a nightmare, I couldn't believe it was real. I woke up this morning sore and bruised all over. I know he must be sorry cause he sent me flowers today.
I got flowers today, and it wasn't mother's day or any other special day.
Last night, he beat me up again, it was much worse than all the other times. If I leave him, what will I do? How will I take care of my kids? What about money?
I'm afraid of him and scared to leave. But I know he must be sorry because he sent me flowers today.
I got flowers today. Today was a very special day. It was the day of my funeral!
Last night, he finally killed me. He beat me to death. If only I had gathered enough courage to leave him, I would not have gotten flowers today.......
PLEASE do not let this be your story or any of your loved ones. If it's your story, know that you are not alone and there is help out there, you just have to reach out. If this is the story of someone you know, don't sit back and feel like it's not your business because one day you could be bringing them flowers...to their funeral. Make the call for them, pull them away, call the police on their behalf when you know what's going on. They will pick up the abuser and the state will press charges.
To the one being abused, I understand it's not easy and it a scary situation but don't make excuses for the abuser (man/woman). Get OUT!!! Find your strength in God and He will make a way for you. God did not intend for us to suffer. We all make mistakes choosing the wrong mate so don't be too ashamed to admit you need out. God is a forgiving God and will show you the path to get out and allow you that open door if you simply call to Him.
Jesus is waiting for you. He wants to comfort you and be your healer. Read these words from the Word of God that describe Him in Isaiah 61:1-2 , "The Lord has anointed me to preach good news to the poor; He has sent me to bind up the brokenhearted, to proclaim freedom to the captives, and release from darkness for the prisoners."
You wonder if He can be trusted? The answer is found in Romans 8:32 , "He who did not spare His own son but gave him up for us all—how will He not also graciously give us all things." Later in that chapter it says, "Nothing can ever separate us from His love."
Yes, you can trust this one who loved you enough to die for you. He's been waiting for you to turn your life over to Him so He can start the healing process that only He can bring. First you have to tell Him that you're putting your total trust in Him to be your Savior. That word "trust" is a hard one after what you've been through, but you can't just go on hurting, hiding, and feeling alone. You are not alone. Reach out to someone. I know it's scary but there is help out there. Trust God and reach out before it's too late!!
Domestic Violence Hotlines:
(816)461-4673(HOPE), Hope House or (816) HOTLINE, Kansas City Metro; The hotline provides 24-hour crisis intervention and support. Also, the hotline is the appropriate way to make a referral to Hope House or to request a HAP (Healthcare Advocacy Program) advocate meet with a victim at an area hospital.
National Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or TTY 1-800-787-3224
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